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CONFESSION #6: Self Worth Talk

CONFESSION: Self worth is the basis of how you feel about yourself. It’s YOUR opinion of whether you think you’re worthy, a good or bad person. There was a time in my life I based my self worth on all of the wrong things. My mood was based on trivial things such as the weight on the scale; Was my skin clear enough? Was I strong enough? Pretty enough? Skinny enough? Smart enough? Nice enough? Successful enough? 

These measures were in control of my self worth. It controlled my happiness and mood. It was a suffocating way to live. It was a very hard standard to live by. In fact it was downright draining. And for what? Why? None of that should ever be a barometer of the worth of a human being. I didn’t feel that way when I looked at friends or family. Why did I do this to myself?

Luckily as I age I get wiser! Being a gym owner (both online and in person), working with lots of people, and in charge of 4 kids, you learn a few things along the way. 😉

Self worth is absolutely none of those things I mentioned. Self worth and what makes me feel ALIVE and worth it is...GIVING! Being kind and giving some more. Every day when I give to a human being, whether it’s time, love, advice, affection, a gift or a meal, it makes me FEEL good! It's what brings fulfillment and SELF WORTH. 

Every morning I wake up excited to give to others. Giving fuels me.
Helping others is what sparks the fire. It’s what lifts the mood. It shapes what self worth is really all about. 

Morrie Schwartz said it perfectly “Giving is living.”




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