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CONFESSION #3 - I haven't always loved females

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CONFESSION #3 - CHOOSE KIND
 Mean girls are real


 I haven’t always loved females. This isn’t a bash session against women. But I need to get this off my chest. Before you begin the hate comments, hear me out... I’m a woman whose mission in life is to empower other women. But there’s a reason behind this. Mean girls are real! Have you ever encountered a mean girl before? 

So here it goes... I was bullied as a kid. I was the new girl in a small town in Sugar Land (Texas), mourning over leaving my dad and friends in Los Angeles (California). 

 I was different. I spoke differently. I didn't have a Southern accent. My hair wasn’t like the other girls. It was thick, frizzy and hard to tame in the humid Houston climate. I was a scrawny little girl (smallest in the class) no muscle, no butt and awkwardly had large boobs (as I developed very early). When you’re in middle school and skinny, apparently you’re not “allowed” to have breasts. I was called all kinds of names and ridiculed in front of the new peers. These “mean girls” told everyone I stuffed my bra, called me names like taxidermist, nappy head, stuck gum in my hair, kicked and tripped me in between classes. I was defenseless and had no voice. I was shy and did what I could to hide my new body.

I’ve been betrayed and stabbed in the back by other women as an adult. But through all of this I found the most amazing and wonderful female friends that I’ll love forever. Passionate, loving, loyal and kind women! Women who aren’t filled with jealousy and hate for other women. Women who don’t spend their lives comparing themselves to everyone else. 

Thank you MEAN girls for teaching me how NOT to be. I purposely go out of my way to include someone who may be shy, feel left out or just need a friend. Thank you for making me become a mentally and physically STRONG woman.

I love my female sisters. I still love the cruel backstabbing women, but I don’t have to like them. I forgive you. I teach my girls to CHOOSE KIND. I don’t claim to have always chosen this path and I’m sorry if I ever hurt you. If I did, it wasn’t you, it was me. My own demons. All I can do now is focus on love. #choosekind 


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